“Too Good to Be True?” – Releasing the Fear of Receiving Too Much Goodness
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “This is too good to be true”?
That pause. That internal flinch.
The quiet tightening in your chest when something wonderful shows up in your life — a loving relationship, a dream opportunity, an unexpected stroke of luck.
You smile… but cautiously. You wait for the other shoe to drop.
Where did this conditioning begin?
It’s not a conscious choice. It’s an expression you’ve heard and use to describe something superlative or out of your scope. Try catching yourself next time you use this expression. But obviously its true and doubting its truth doesn’t make it better or worse.
It’s something you’ve absorbed slowly over the years — through experiences, observations, heartbreaks, and disappointments. Perhaps someone promised something they never delivered.
Maybe joy arrived once, only to be followed by pain.
Over time, the nervous system learns: Don’t trust the good. It doesn’t last.
We begin to believe that lasting joy, ease, or abundance isn’t for us — or isn’t even real.
This belief is rooted in fear and self doubt.
Fear of disappointment.
Fear of being made a fool for trusting.
But underneath that fear lies something even deeper: a sense of unworthiness.
The voice that says: “Good things don’t happen to people like me.”
“I must have done something wrong to deserve this.”
“I can’t be this lucky. Something bad must be around the corner.”
This mindset becomes a self-protection mechanism — a mental armor that guards us from pain… but also blocks us from fully receiving joy.
And the saddest part?
We stop celebrating our own victories.
We diminish the magic of the present.
We become skeptical of life itself.
The Scarcity Mindset- A Quiet Saboteur of Joy.
Ever notice how a part of you gets nervous when something truly good happens? That’s the scarcity mindset at play — the old belief that there’s only so much good to go around, and maybe you’re not meant to have too much of it.
It whispers things like, “This won’t last,” or “Better not get too excited.” It makes joy feel risky and ease feel suspicious. But here’s the truth: life isn’t a limited pie.
You don’t have to earn or prove your way into abundance. The more you trust that there’s enough — enough love, enough success, enough support — the more you allow yourself to actually receive it. And that changes everything.
Stop hoarding, hesitating, and hardening — instead, begin expanding, receiving, and trusting. Abundance begins where fear ends.
But here’s the truth.
You are allowed to experience things that are extraordinarily good.
You are allowed to feel safe, loved, supported, successful — and still be okay.
The fact that something is beautiful and far surpasses your expectations doesn’t make it dangerous.
Begin to unlearn the “too good to be true” mindset?
🌱 1. Become aware of the belief.
Notice when you feel yourself bracing — that reflex to doubt the good. Gently acknowledge it: “here it is… my fear is showing up.”
🫶🏽 2. Reassure your inner child.
Often, this disbelief comes from childhood, when promises were broken or joy was taken away too soon. Speak to that part of you. Or this idea was repeated and reinforced.
Tell your inner child , “It’s safe to receive now. You’re not alone anymore. This time, it’s real.”
✨ 3. Create a new mantra.
Instead of “This is too good to be true,” try:
- “This is good and it is true.”
- “I deserve miracles.”
- “I am safe in joy.”
🌸 4. Practice celebrating without fear.
When something wonderful happens, allow yourself to enjoy it — fully. Let your body feel the aliveness, the gratitude, the wonder.
Joy is medicine. Receiving is healing.
🧘🏽♀️ 5. Anchor into the present.
Often our fear of losing something good comes from time-traveling into imagined futures. Stay in the now. Right here, right now, things are beautiful. Let that be enough.
🌟 6. Look around — miracles are everywhere.
That unexpected phone call.
The stranger’s kindness.
The opportunity that seemed to come out of nowhere.
The moment of peace in your heart.
Miracles don’t always arrive with fireworks — but they are real, and they are yours to receive.
You are worthy of every good thing that comes to you.
You are not foolish for hoping. You are not naïve for trusting.
You are not weak for celebrating love, success, or joy. The conditioning that taught you to fear the good can be gently unlearned — with compassion, presence, and truth.
Let yourself soften.
Let yourself believe again.
Let yourself receive — without suspicion, without shrinking, without guilt.
Because this is what healing is. Not just surviving pain,
but learning to truly trust joy.
Allow your joy to resonate deep — it is always true. 🌷
Meena Iyer
Psychologist, NLP Master Practitioner, Inner Child Healer, Sobriety Coach, Breathwork Facilitator.
https://www.meenaiyer.in/
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